Responsible choice

At some point in all of our lives we need to learn to be our own parent. To be aware of and fulfill our own needs and make responsible choices for our Highest Good. You may not have had the best mum or dad in the world BUT that no longer matters because you have YOU..

What are the responsibilities of the “ideal” parent?


Protection – a parent protects a child, they do not wrap them up in cotton wool as this creates a child who only knows fear and vulnerability but they protect a child from unacceptable behavior and unnecessary pain and harm. Say for example in you life now or in the past someone has treated you badly - if that was happening to a child or your child, would that be acceptable – no – then that behavior is not acceptable for you either. A parent teaches a child that we are all worthy of love and respect. A parent also teaches a child not take on board other people’s behavioral problems or issues as they are its own. A child is not to blame or responsible for the actions of others – we all have choice.

A child needs to learn that is responsible for its own actions and has to make responsible choices – every choice and action has a reaction, so they need to learn to be responsible. A child also needs to learn that it is not responsible for others or their actions – they too have choice.

A parent teaches a child that it is safe to have a voice, a powerful voice that speaks its truth. I do not mean powerful as in aggression or anger but a voice that is calm, loving, and yet firm. A child learns that it has a right to speak and to be listened to.

A parent encourages a child to be all that they are and more. They sing loving praises and words of empowerment. for good behavior and when a child achieves even the smallest of things. A parent catches a child if it falls without judgment or criticism. A parent knows that the child has to make mistakes in order to determine right from wrong and also decide for itself what feels good or bad that is how we discover what we do and do not want. A parent knows that a child will learn from its “mistakes” with loving guidance and so scolding or being “hard” on the child is not necessary.

Trust – a parent has trust for a child and a child trusts its parent. No explanations needed just a deep bond of trust. A child learns from an early age that all it need do is ask and the parent will fulfill that need.

A parent teaches a child that we are all one – a container of light all taking from the same great ocean of light BUT how we all express that light is what makes us individual – we are all born to share a gift – a parent will help that child to feel safe and confident enough to share that gift with the world.

A parent helps a child to fulfill its dreams and goals, a parent understands that these dreams may not be what he/she had planned for the child but understands that it is the child’s dream that is of importance – not their own.


Unconditional love – a parent shows a child that they are loved no matter what – their behavior may not always be acceptable – but the person, the soul is loved always. Love like star light never dies.

A parent would not allow a child to be self destructive or self critical or negative or to place itself in pain or to be putting itself in harms way – a parent provides a safe and nurturing environment for a child to think and feel positive thoughts about itself, creating self love and confidence.

A parent teaches a child it is good to love its body and take care of it. A parent will provide food, water, exercise and rest to ensure the child is healthy in body, mind and spirit.

A parent teaches a child to equally give and receive – not for hidden agendas or personal gain but for love. The child is also taught to treat others and him/herself as he/she wishes to be treated.

A parent teaches a child that the Universe is abundant – there is enough for everyone and everyone is worthy of God’s gifts. Money is energy, a creation of God to free people from lack and need. A child is taught there is no lack.

A child is taught that all emotions are good, to not hide them but to feel them completely and let them go – returning to that beautiful sparkle

Life is easy, life is fun, life is love, life is that tree and that ant, life is you, life is me, life is a smile, a tickle, a newborn baby, an old wise hand – a child is not taught life is hard, you have to work hard for your money – if you think life is hard, it will be hard – a child is taught life is what you create with your wonderful feelings and imagination – what you think you are – you are. What you think is – is.

You and the universe are your own parent. No more fighting, struggling – just accept what is and was – surrender it, let it go peacefully and make space for healing - and now make responsible choices to change it – choices from the heart. Bring in the new with you as your parent making sure that all your needs and desires are met first, so that you are full to overflowing and can now allow that “flow” to flow unto others.
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No more shouting and screaming at yourself, others or the Angels, anger does not get results – your pure soul is not like that and besides would you give to a child that was demanding, impatient and having a paddy – no – me neither.

You are not alone, the Angels will guide and support you but you have to make the commitment to you, you have to have devotion and a passion to be all that you are and more – and then on that energy of commitment and love, doors will open – not on anger, frustration, blame … sometimes it may be rocky as the old rises to the surface, heals and then leaves and makes space for the new .. but in this time do not give up, just flow, know that beneath the storm of emotions and life’s events in the physical world is a deeper meaning – an issue is rising, a healing is occurring and you are getting closer to YOU – a peaceful, calm, loving and very wise you that is bursting with life.